Boys

1. Jeans are very important to grunge. Ripping your jeans is acceptable, but not too much! (Ripping them too much will make you look dumb.) But if you do, consider wearing thermal underwear under it, to keep from freezing. You can also patch your jeans with odd fabrics (plaid, paisley, tie-dye, etc.).
2. Listen to grunge music
   

   Mark Arm, from the band Mudhoney
   Above-ground grunge includes the big four: Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, and Alice In Chains. Original, more underground bands include Mother Love Bone, Love Battery, Mad Season, Green River, Screaming Trees, Temple of the Dog, Mudhoney, etc. (Knowing underground bands is a must!)
3. Buying from thrift stores like value village and Good Will is much better than buying expensive, brand-name clothing, Kurt Cobain only bought second-hand. If you buy pre-ripped jeans for seventy dollars and call yourself grunge, you're a poser.
4. Buy Grunge t-shirts with bands like Soundgarden or Nirvana on them, if you know, and like, the band. Also acceptable are underground band shirts.
5. Other shirts in clude: white t-shirts you drew on with permanent marker, striped t-shirts, solid t-shirts(earthy, neutral colors), and bar/club/restaurant shirts.
6. Dying your hair is great.
7. 

1. Flannel shirts are acceptable.
2. Sunglasses are acceptable as well. Cheap sunglasses from the dollar store are perfect. Any sunglasses will do really, even girl's ones, look at Kurt Cobain!
3. Summer can get hot. So get a pair of three quarter jeans, but not too baggy and rip up the ends where the fold is, using a sharp object, burning with a lighter can work too. Long dirty white socks and ripped up black chucks go well with this as well.
4. Khaki shorts or cargo shorts was popular by Eddie Vedder and Pearl Jam.
5. Corduroy was another material Eddie Vedder and Kurt Cobain wore. The Corduroy Coat was/is grunge.
6. Grunge did not care what they wore. They wore whatever. They would get out of bed and wear whatever they were wearing.
7. If able to, grow a chin goatee and long sideburns similar to the one Layne Staley had or Scott Weiland had during the 'Core' era. Five o' clock shadow is also acceptable. Layne Staley alsohad many a different beard, so there are many different things you can do. Mustaches aren't really grunge unless it's like a Chris Cornell or Mike Inez one.
8. Grunge men to look up: Layne Staley, Jerry Cantrell, Mark Lanegan, Mark Arm, Chris Cornell, Eddie Vedder, Kurt Cobain, Tad, Scott Weiland.

Girls

1. Flannel is acceptable.
2. Wearing guys pants is acceptable, but you should be careful about it.
3. DO NOT SHOP AT ABERCROMBIE (&Fitch). This is nowhere near grunge, and doing this is supporting commercialized garbage.
4. Grow your hair out if you want, or cut it short. Just nothing too fancy.
5. Women of grunge to look up: Kat Bjelland, Kathleen Hanna, Donita Sparks, Mia Zapata & more.

Both

1. You can listen to the grunge music in the guys section, but the feminine grunge bands are L7, Bikini Kill, OOps! Wrong Hole, Babes in Toyland, etc. That goes for both types.
2. Buy stuff from thrift stores and flea markets. Don't buy expensive things because, once again, if you buy pre-ripped jeans for seventy dollars and call yourself grunge, you're a poser.
3. Accessories such as beaded necklaces, lanyards, bangles, rubber bracelets are perfect!
4. Buy actual CDs, it's cool to have an mp3, but have more CDs (or vinyl). It really adds to the feel of it.

The Attitude

1. Don't care what other people think.
2. Most "grungers" were rebels. They disliked society and media and didn't trust large firms and corporations.
3. Being very "calm" is another thing if someone is annoying you walk AWAY.
4. Have respect for other bands (if you're in a band)but always think your band is the best.

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